I’m sure growing up with a sibling with a significant disability cannot be easy. I grew up with a neurotypical brother. So, it’s hard to put myself in Jonah’s shoes.
Some amazing qualities are formed from a sibling with a disability. More resilient, more empathetic, more reliable. We talk about these qualities A LOT with Jonah, not sure if it’s sinking in or not. Collin and Jonah are twins and I sometimes wonder what goes on in Jonah’s head.
From a majority of our conversations, he does think I spend a lot of time with Collin, and I get that! I can definitely see where he thinks Collin gets more attention. There are times I see the frustration… almost a love/hate relationship.
It’s not like Collin is chronologically younger or older, they are the same age… but Collin is developmentally younger than Jonah. And when they were younger, Collin’s disability wasn’t as noticeable, but the older the boys get it’s more noticeable.
Jonah has a lot of friends. After school and during breaks it’s constantly busy around here. They’re a good group of kids and always say hi to Collin. There have been times I’ve seen Jonah stick up for his brother too. He’s had friends ask why Collin might flap or rock and he’ll tell them in a stern voice “he has Autism.”
We are on summer break now and Collin only gets 3 weeks off during the summer (these are spread out throughout the summer). Third grade was not an easy year, but he made Honor Roll and passed the FSA. Over this year, Jonah learned how to ride his bike. I look forward to his summer breaks to spend that “extra” time he is looking for and creating special memories together that this amazing sibling deserves 💙